While my vacation started off on a bad note, things have settled down and I’m having some F-U-N! I’m back in The City, but headed out to New Joisy this weekend. My friend bummed me out because she won’t drive me to visit Falling Water. L
It’s Friday, it’s summer, and it’s about that time for... S-E-X!
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-=[ Misunderstood Sexual Terms ]=-
The only sexual deviance is abstinence.
-- Sigmund Freud
Here are some [very] brief definitions of a few useful though often misunderstood and misused sexual terms...
Bestiality: Sex with animals. This practice is not as uncommon as you might think. The late Dr. Alfred Kinsey, for example, found that about eight percent of the men he surveyed had sexual contact with animals (although usually only once of twice in their lifetimes) proving once again that a man will stick his penis into almost anything.
Exhibitionism: A sexual behavior in which an individual is aroused by exposing his or her genitals to strangers. It’s the shock, dismay, and panic that’s the real turn on. If you don’t act shocked by a flasher, you’ll at least deprive him or her of the sexual pleasure they get out of the experience. Exhibitionists are rarely dangerous, by the way, and do not usually progress to more violent behavior such as rape.
Fetishism: Technically, a fetish is an inanimate object endowed with magical or supernatural power. A sexual fetish is an object endowed with sexual power. Sexual fetishes include objects or body parts such as panties, bras, hair, breasts, women’s derrieres (*grin*), feet (ewwwwww!), or even pictures of feet (double ewwwwww!). The objects may provide tactile sensations (leather, latex, fur) or emit smells (soiled underwear) that serve to stimulate the fetishist. (A fetishist is a person who gets aroused by a fetish.) Some fetishists have sex exclusively with fetish objects and may actually derive greater pleasure from that than from intercourse. For others, fetishes are only an accessory to lovemaking with another person. An overly simplistic and incomplete (in my opinion) explanation for fetishists is that it arises from transferences from feelings of “sinfulness,” “wickedness,” and “lust.” From this point of view, fetishists transfer their sexual feelings to objects. The fetish itself becomes sinful, arousing, and a substitute for a lover. Fetishism is believed to be more prevalent among men perhaps because men seem to be aroused more easily aroused by sights and smells than women are.
Frotteurism: A sexual behavior in which someone gets sexual pleasure, and may even reach orgasm, from rubbing up against strangers in a crowd. Almost every New Yorker I know has a story involving this fetish. Our subway system is probably heaven for people with this fetish.
Hermaphroditism: A term describing the condition of having the attributes of both sexes (from Hermes and Aphrodite, god and goddess of love, respectively). Human hermaphrodites are born with a condition known as intersexuality, in which their reproductive systems and/ or chromosomes are not quite male or female. True hermaphrodites are rare and may have both fallopian tubes and a male deferens. Pseudohermaphrodites are more common and have the chromosomes and interior reproductive system of a woman, but the genitals of a man, or vice-versa.
Hermaphroditism is not uncommon among animals -- some oysters, snails, and worms function both as males and females during reproduction (simultaneous hermaphrodites), and hermaphroditic fish actually change from one sex to another during their lives (sequential hermaphrodites).
Incubus: a mythological evil spirit that assumes the form of a man and has intercourse with someone, usually a woman, at night in bed. Today we call them priests or
Nymphomania/ Satyriasis: Nymphomania is a condition of insatiable sexual desire in a woman. Typically, such women have a compulsion to lure a series of casual sex partners for one-night stands, and then reject them, because the thrill of newness and conquest is the only thing that enables them to reach orgasm. In men this is considered normal adolescent/ young adulthood behavior (LOL!). Actually, the male version is referred to as Satyriasis, after satyr, the mythological attendants of Bacchus who were half goat, half man and famous for their lecherous ways. Today, we call obsessive/ compulsive sexual behavior sexual addiction.
Paraphilia: A general term used to describe sexual behavior that is considered outside the realm of normal. According to one school of thought, all paraphilias are seen as a way of separating oneself from the “wickedness” of sexuality -- such as transferring it to an inanimate object (fetishism) or having to be punished for feeling lust (sadomasochism). the key factor in a paraphilia is that it must be present in order for a person to become sexually aroused.
Sadomasochism: A sexual behavior in which sexual pleasure results from the giving (sadism) or receiving (masochism) of pain and humiliation. Partners may always play a fixed role (top/ bottom) or may reverse the roles.
Sodomy: This term is often used to refer to anal sex, but technically it also refers to mouth/ genital contact or sex with animals. It is sometimes used to refer to any sexual act not considered “normal.” I have at various times been falsely accused, among other things, of being a sodomite. *grin*
Succubus: A mythological evil spirit that assumes the form of a woman and has intercourse with someone, usually a man, at night in bed. Today we call them cougars or MILFs. LOL
Transsexualism: Transsexuals are those whose sexual self-image or gender identity does not match the sex of their physical body. They may undergo sex-change surgery and hormone treatment to become (as medically possible) their “true selves” -- someone of the opposite sex. Transsexuals do not view themselves as homosexuals but as heterosexuals who at birth were “trapped in the wrong body.” This dissatisfaction with one’s own sex is also sometimes referred to as gender dysphoria.
Transvestitism: Also called cross-dressing, transvestitism is a sexual behavior in which a person is sexually aroused by dressing up in the clothes, especially the underwear, of the opposite sex. Studies have shown that transvestites are almost always male and usually heterosexual. That is to say even though they dress up like women, they still consider themselves as male and attracted to women. They don’t want to become a woman (as in the case of transsexuals, who do); they’re simply sexually aroused by the experience of wearing women’s attire.
Voyeurism: A sexual behavior in which a person becomes aroused from the risk of being discovered while secretly watching a stranger undressing or having sex. Peeping Toms, as they are sometimes called, are rarely rapists; they spy, and then later “re-view” these secret mental movies during sex, either alone or with a partner.
Well, that’s it for today!
PS: Sex is good for you.