tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post634866830677294138..comments2023-09-01T07:29:17.454-04:00Comments on [un]Common Sense: What Really Matters, pt. IIIEddiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09579585545543464648noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-45515626611744640922010-03-16T04:23:22.000-04:002010-03-16T04:23:22.000-04:00I work with people who have been addicted for anyw...I work with people who have been addicted for anywhere from a few years, to up to 30 years. They have had "orthodox" up to their eyeballs. Kind of reminds me of doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. :-P If nothing else, my Patients are intrigued and engaged, because my approach gets them thinking. While my methods are different, my principles of therapy are sound.<br /><br />*Or it's just my way of refusing to be another lemming....LOL*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-56755099227887632042010-03-15T19:46:46.000-04:002010-03-15T19:46:46.000-04:00I'm the same: my approach is very unorthodox, ...I'm the same: my approach is very unorthodox, totally inapproprite (from a textbook perspective). But my major concern is like yours: what works for the person who's working with me.<br /><br />My boss saw me run a group and was horrfied! I invited her to try and after 10 mins., she was lost.<br /><br />I do more programmtic design and fundraising stuff these days, but I run one mens and one womens group every week.Eddie Daedalusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-67116097837727129372010-03-15T15:01:25.000-04:002010-03-15T15:01:25.000-04:00<span>
Working in drug/alcohol abuse has ta...<span><br /><br />Working in drug/alcohol abuse has taught me that there are two camps: the old-school group: the just say NO and do everything I tell you to do kind of punitive approach, and the newer, motivational interviewing...meet the Patient where they are at approach.<br /><br />I fall into the motivational group. I believe that if you see me working, "therapizing," I'm blowing it. I believe in a "back-door" approach, relying on my ability to engage the Patient using Rogarian principles, and then slip in cognitive behavioral interventions. If I am doing it right, they never see it coming. I have even been known to sit with a Client over a pot of tea, mainly because it takes approximately 50 minutes to drink a pot of tea and it has proven to be helpful for people that are initially uncomfortable talking about their deepest, darkest secrets.<br /><br />A lot of my co-workers interpret this easy-going style as my being a "push-over." What they have difficulty understanding is why my Patient's do so well when they don't see me doing anything, and they envy my low no-show rate. These co-workers are also the ones that come in and "chop things up with me" when they are having an issue!<br /><br />As for "people not taking you seriously " that was one of the reasons I changed clinics...the new director was old school and thought I was just "chatting" with my Patients. He told the Counselors, to whom my Patients were reassigned, that they were going to have to get my Patients "into shape." He was more concerned about my style of therapy rather than the big picture that all my Patients were clean and sober, working, and well into the process of repairing some of the wreckage of their pasts.<br /><br />My new director loves what I bring to the table, and I am free to fly once more.<br /><br />I applaud your approach, Eddie....easy-going is underrated.<br /><span></span></span>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-84081807169176773302010-03-15T13:59:09.000-04:002010-03-15T13:59:09.000-04:00Well put my friend. And yes, poking means several ...Well put my friend. And yes, poking means several things depending on the context. LOL Romping is good too!<br /><br />I do think we get trapped into thinking that we shyould act a certain way because of our age. I get a lot of grief at work because of this. My feedback from my peers is that I'm too easy-going. "People won't take you seriously, Eddie." as if I cared. People DO like to work for me though! LOLEddie Daedalusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-60818688237903754642010-03-15T13:41:50.000-04:002010-03-15T13:41:50.000-04:00<span>
Perhaps this love of life, the unwav...<span><br /><br />Perhaps this love of life, the unwavering courage to laugh in the face of fear, and the enthusiasm to jump into the leaf-pile called life is what brought us all together. I don't believe that things happen by accident, in this playground we call the Universe. I have been dating men in their late thirties, early forties, and it is not because I am seeking younger men per se, but because we connected. I find that these men aren't afraid of hard work, have schedules that match mine, are not consumed with illnesses, operations, how the world has done them wrong, or who and what kept them from being happy and/or successful. They have healthy appetites in all areas and willingly share the passions that drive them. I have long suspected that women who get left for younger women were not left because of their chronological age but because they had lost their lust for life and their desire for their partner. I believe that we earn our faces...what's inside, we wear on the outside. No one wants to be with an old poopsie before they are an old poopsie...and probably not even then! I would be happy to romp with you, poking fun (you know, I thought all that poking was something else entirely! Shows what's on MY mind!! hahaha) and experiencing bursts of unreasonable laughter and happiness.<br /><span></span></span>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com