tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post8092715061661586395..comments2023-09-01T07:29:17.454-04:00Comments on [un]Common Sense: The TGIF Sex Blog (Sexual Upbringing in America)Eddiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09579585545543464648noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-49802030903462792992009-05-23T09:23:30.749-04:002009-05-23T09:23:30.749-04:00@Barry: Information is power. We cannot allow our ...@Barry: Information is power. We cannot allow our hang-ups to get in the way of our children's' sexual health. In the coming Fridays, I'm going to post on how other, more successful, nations address teen sexuality and how we could learn from such approaches.<br /><br />@Lola: I think one way toward helping teens develop sexual attitudes is by adults being the power of example. If we continue to view sex as dirty (and let's face it, as a society we still do), the real message there is that we're telling children that THEY are dirty. Shame and guilt are poor substitutes for an enlightened morality. But I'm sure you know this already through your work. I commend you on that because I know that field is so difficult these days.<br /><br />I've done a little research and I hope to share about reproductive health policies in nations that have a fraction of the teen pregancies and abortions that we have.Eddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09579585545543464648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-81337436630108682882009-05-22T21:45:04.840-04:002009-05-22T21:45:04.840-04:00I found this post very interesting. I have worked...I found this post very interesting. I have worked in the field of public health/reproductive health, and I can tell you, we have some extremely ignorant youths out there. I think that more knowledge, HONEST knowledge would be a good thing, but I also think we need to so some self-esteem/confidence building excercises so that young people dont let their insecurities get them into situations they cant handle.<br /><br />LLola Getshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07058543308191117858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-40833488739967862522009-05-22T20:10:48.032-04:002009-05-22T20:10:48.032-04:00I agree with you when you say that the only way is...I agree with you when you say that the only way is to give as much information as they can take--I thought a classic illustration of that was the recent car ad where boy asks dad--"where did I come from" and dad launches in-unnecessarily as it happens.<br /><br />We need to hear what our kids are saying, not just words but gestures,actions etc and be ready to be honest--kids can smell lies and evasions. Evasions make them think that there is something wrong with sex whereas in the right place, in the right relationship, at the right time its beautifulbarryhttp://www.ownyourown.org.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-32351902335132098252009-05-22T15:33:04.141-04:002009-05-22T15:33:04.141-04:00yep... you make good sense to me... but THAT doesn...yep... you make good sense to me... but THAT doesnt change the fact that im uncomfortable as HELL talkin about it lol.<br /><br />*yay no typos*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-76735158758232323552009-05-22T11:05:19.686-04:002009-05-22T11:05:19.686-04:00@anonymous: You raise some good points. I think ou...@anonymous: You raise some good points. I think our children give us an opportunity to open that dialog, even if it is uncomfortable. children listen better if they feel they are truly being part of a process. we don't have to present ourselves as being totally comfortable (who is?), but if we're honest, we can talk nabout being uncomfortable about sex and using THAT as a jumping off place. then it becomes like a partnership or a REAL conversation about sex in which both parent and child are learning from one another.<br /><br />I mean, that's the way I approached it with my son...Eddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09579585545543464648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-72818738412653971822009-05-22T11:01:27.592-04:002009-05-22T11:01:27.592-04:00instinct* lol oops :Dinstinct* lol oops :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553815707336774090.post-7631919521764734142009-05-22T11:00:37.318-04:002009-05-22T11:00:37.318-04:00i think that no matter how "free" we profess to be...i think that no matter how "free" we profess to be... there is always a certain degree of reservation... its ingrained in us to feel shame... it goes all the way back to adam and eve... their nakedness... the punishment for giving in to temptation... <br />sin is associated with all that stuff yanno?<br /><br />i DO agree... its time we evolve and start to approach this in a different way... to keep the statistic from getting worse and wotnot... <br /><br />but its so hard to pretend you are comfortable with something that you REALLY arent comfortable with... especially when it has to do with your children... after all it is a mothers (and fathers) natural instince to protect their yound... and we want to protect them from every kind of hurt that there is out there... including sexual and emotional stuff.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com