The TGIF Sex Blog [Awakening Female Sexual Energy]

¡Hola! Everybody...
Well, it’s the last weekend of the summer and I’m planning to get away -- going to the Boston area for some much-needed R&R. This past week has been hell at work and the lull of summer will become the hectic, fast paced, helter-skelter of fall once next week rolls around.

I was going to write something on revolution and sex, but didn’t get the chance to finish it. Instead, here’s the last of the Summer Reruns series...

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Ovarian Kung-Fu

As many of my readers know, I do not believe sex is incompatible with spirituality. For centuries, we have been indoctrinated to believe that sexuality and spirituality are mutually exclusive. For me, this stereotype has destroyed untold millions of lives, and continues to do so. The truth is that if we want to grow spiritually, we cannot deny the existence of our genitals. We must instead work to integrate our sexual urges into our spiritual lives. In fact, I contend that sex is a valid spiritual path -- a bridge to a deeper relationship to your Higher Power.

Sex can be so much more than a mere release valve for our stress or our neurotic need to feel good/ validated, or be loved. It can be joyous and illuminating. It can be a genuinely transformative force in our lives. Not only can it uncover for us a depth of pleasure that transcends the nerve spasms of genitally focused sex, it can also yield a radical intimacy that obliterates our false sense of separateness, obliterating our ego-boundaries until we recognize in one another the Universal Principle of existence itself. Whew!

::gets off soap box::

As for the title? Yeah, you read that right: Ovarian Kung-Fu -- there are women can do some Hidden Crotch/ Flying Poosie shit on you and you’re whupped!

WEPA! LOL!

I’m making fun, but I’m very serious about this. This is an actual internal system of kung-fu that involves cultivating female sexual energy. The original Taoist sexual exercises were called Ovarian Kung Fu. Some students feels this sounds too violent or too much like a martial arts. However, keep in mind that the term kung fu means discipline or intensive work, an expression of power and mastery, of the ability to take control of one’s body and sexual life.

The following was adapted from the book, Healing Love Through the Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy (Chia & Chia, 2005). I can’t possibly convey enough of this teaching through one-page MS Word document, but I have tried to give a brief synopsis. I found this totally engrossing.

The Taoist masters believe that the principle energy of a woman (called jing) is largely accumulated in the ovaries and that conscious breathing releases that energy and makes it available for spiritual growth as well as the rejuvenation of the body.

Similarly, the principle energy of a man is found in the testes and is used by a similar discipline of controlled breath and concentration. Both Taoism and Tantra emphasize the importance in taking command of one’s psychosomatic energies. Taoists believe that ordinary sexual activity squanders this all-important energy, mostly through orgasm. Through sexual practices, this waste can be prevented and the life-force can be used to intensify our awareness and ultimately reach a state of spiritual realization.

An interview with a female practitioner yields some interesting insights. For one, she stated that the exercises were easy and that there were no negative side effects for her or anyone else she knows. She states that the exercises empowered her with her control of her own sexual energy and a rediscovery of sexuality as a resource for personal cultivation.

Taoists speak of cultivating one’s nature, refining energy for personal and spiritual development, with sexual energy being one of the raw materials for that process. Practitioners of Taoist sexual exercises speak of being able to direct their sexual energy throughout their body, watching it transform them. Using Taoist techniques and practices, a transformation occurs which causes a basic grounding and harmony. Sexual pleasure becomes more intense and exquisite -- pleasure becoming ecstasy and ecstasy growing into bliss.

Some of the other benefits of Taoist sexual cultivation are relief of menstrual cramps, a shorter flow, and fewer pre-menstrual symptoms.

With Ovarian Breathing, the practitioner learns to move their sexual energy from their genitals to their whole body. Over time, it becomes possible to refine it to the point that it can be shared with other people in their daily experiences. Some practitioners report becoming more attractive to people in general and men in particular. Not merely in a sexual sense, but in the sense of people being interested in their whole person.

What I found most interesting is the description of what is called a Valley of Orgasm, as opposed to a peak orgasm. The practitioner first experiences a slow wave of energy rising within her, leading to a prolonged phase of peak excitement. Then by deeply relaxing in the valley for period, the cycle is repeated with each successive cycle becoming more deeply relaxing and more intense. Eventually the whole body/ mind is at the same time aroused and deeply surrendering.

The Valley Orgasm occurs spontaneously in the state of deep relaxation, and it is a very powerful experience that is felt in every cell and every particle of the practitioner’s being as an ecstatic, exquisite universal integration with all creation.

Now put that in your pipe and smoke it! LOL

My name is Eddie and I'm in  recovery from civilization...

Resources

Chia, M., & Chia, M. 2005). Healing love through the Tao: Cultivating female sexual energy. New York: Destiny Books.