[un]Common Sex Blog [Feminine/ Masculine Polarity]

Hola Everybody,
Once again, it's Friday, the day you all claim to have been waiting for... and what? It's here! What?!! LOL

It's Friday and that means, I get to write about everyone's fave topic: S-E-X! Yaaaay!

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-=[ Sexual Attraction: The Feminine/ MasculinePolarity ]=-

I have written before how we tend to use the word love to describe many things. One on level, one can love anything: a child, a parent, and even an object. Love is that state of openness. Then there's romantic love, that's one love we're all obsessed by, as in, "Will I ever find 'The One' who will love me." Finally, there's something a little more mysterious and vague-sounding. Something we sometimes call attraction, or chemistry. Ever meet someone and immediately you feel a palpable sense of connection? Most of us have had this experience. A man or woman walks into the room and it's like...

BAM!

You lock eyes and there is something there's a powerful attraction. This is what I call sexual attraction and what a former teacher called sexual polarity. I've written more extensively about love and romance, but today I will address sexual attraction.

Have you ever had the following happen to you? I once met a woman with whom I initially didn't have much feeling for. I hear women often say, "He was nice, but that 'chemistry' wasn't there," to explain why they won't date what seems like a nice or compatible guy. Well, that's how I felt about this particular woman: she was "nice": pretty, smart, goal-oriented, but I didn't feel that spark when she was around. Hence, I spent most of my energy chasing after another woman who was only nominally more attractive and whole lot more high-strung.

Eventually, I tired of the drama queen and went out on a lunch date with the first woman (the sparkless woman). During that lunch, I discovered this woman to be an engaging conversationalist with whom I shared many similar interests. We eventually started seeing each other more regularly, but still, that spark wasn't there, and it was just 'nice' being around her and doing things together.

Then it happened. I don't when or how, but that spark suddenly appeared out of nowhere and I found, much to my surprise that fuckin spark was all over the place and I couldn't get enough of her. Holding the cheeks of her ass like it was fruit while I made love to her from behind was my particular corner of heaven. The sad thing was that just when that spark was ignited in me, she was losing it.

I was crushed.

What I didn't realize then, but know now is that chemistry, or sexual attraction, or spark is something that one can learn to turn on and off. At the time I sensed this -- after all, how could this spark, this sexual attraction/ chemistry come out of nowhere? Didn't this attraction thingee just drop on you like a ton of bricks immediately?

Sexual attraction -- that magnetic pull, the yin and yang of the Masculine and Feminine -- affect our lives profoundly. For example, even a few moments of sexual attraction can cause the memory of a trip to the library linger in your mind for days. Total strangers can raise your body temperature. Even online connections can make you flush and cause your heart to pound.

On the other hand, when the sexual attraction is weak in our intimate relationships, we begin to feel that something is missing -- often blaming our partners and ourselves. The fact is, it seems, that sexual attraction is or isn't happening. Before I understood that sexual attraction could be consciously turned on or off, I called it chemistry. In today's world of relationships based on friendship we act as if sexual attraction is not as important as, say, communication. Therefore, our relationships over time tend to become more talk, less action.

However much we would like to admit it or not, talk just ain't enough for many of us.

The good news is that we don't have to remain slaves to sexual polarity, being passive victims to its ebbs and flows and unreasonable desires. With practice, sexuality can become an exploration of unseen and healing sexual energies as well as a way of expressing our deepest love. By becoming versed to the wisdom of sexual polarity, making love becomes exquisite, a whole-body symbiotic form of prayer of the infinite mystery of man and woman.

The first step in this mastery of sexual polarity is becoming conscious of when it increases or decreases. For example, your lover is barking at you, or putting you down and you feel your body shut down, you become numb, and maybe even weak. You might even become disgusted. I know of a woman who can't stand the way her husband chews (he does chew in a fucked up way). On the other hand, there are times when your lover's beauty and presence overwhelms you, magnifying your love to the point of bliss.

So I guess you might be asking by now, "duh, Eddie? What the fuck is sexual polarity?!!" LOL that's a good question. Simply put, the way sexual polarity works is like electricity or magnetism, sexual polarity is a natural energy that requires two poles. For example, for magnetic energy to flow, you need a north pole and a south pole. It's the same with sexual energy -- in order for it to flow, you need two poles. We can call these two poles -- Masculine and Feminine.

Masculine and Feminine do not mean man and woman, but are universal forces. While it is true that most women have a Feminine polarity and most men have a Masculine polarity, there are exceptions to the rule. The point being that a natural energetic force flows between the Masculine and the Feminine. This is why a conversation with your friends of the same sex comes to a halt when a beauty walks by -- a force automatically flows between the Masculine and the Feminine, and your body/ mind reorients itself line a compass needle. It's also why the way to a man's heart is not through his stomach, but through his cock. If you doubt me ladies, just remember there will be a lot of cold dinners and sputtering candles tonight.

Like magnetic energy, sexual polarity can be either repulsive or attractive, depending on which poles are brought together. In intimacy, when one's partner's Masculine energy is brought near the other partner's Feminine sexual energy, an attractive force of sexual polarity is created that pulls them together. On the other hand, when both of their Masculine energies are brought together, their attractive passion is decreased and even repelled and pushed away by that unseen force.

Okay! There's so much more to all this, and this blog is already long. Next week: How to create sexual polarity!

Remember: not all sex has to be a gourmet meal, sometimes it can be just as satisfying (if not more) to have a quick bite! LOL

Love,

Eddie