Tuesday, May 19, 2009

The Mini Me

¡Hola! Everybody...
Today I am reposting one of my favorite pieces because I want to use it to frame subsequent posts...

We all possess what I call a “natural vision” -- a child-like (as opposed to childish) quality that insists on seeing the world with fresh eyes.

Unfortunately, natural vision is invariably sabotaged by an unforeseen element in our lives, which affects us both internally and externally. It is so powerful that it influences the way we parent, the way we treat our loved ones and each other, the way we do work each day. And... it influences how others treat us. We never expect or invite it, yet almost every aspect of our lives exists in its shadow. And though we constantly find evidence of its effects, this force is basically invisible and therefore never anticipated or understood. Oh yes, we do our best to put a good face on it in order to keep it hidden from others, thinking our dark secrets are ours alone, but it really doesn’t work: you can see the effects of this force everywhere.

What is this mysterious element in human nature that stalks and sabotages us?


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-=[ The “Mini Me” and the Creation of the “Personal Novela” ]=-

“Human beings are driven by a core wound -- this kind of madness that something’s missing. The more conscious they get, the more desperate that becomes... ”

-- Saniel Bonder

In Shakespeare’s Othello the protagonist and his young Venetian wife are deeply in love. Othello is a noble and simple-hearted soldier who trusts those around him. Desdemona, his devoted wife, loves him deeply and hangs on his every word. It is Iago, Othello’s advisor and apparent friend, who plays one character against another, creating an atmosphere of separation and distrust. He whispers doubts into Othello’s ear, inciting in him a violent jealousy that ultimately leads to a senseless tragedy.

We are all Othello’s at heart -- open, trusting wanting to see the best in each other -- and we are seduced and driven to insane action by our own invisible Iagos. Our Iago is a state of mind; he cannot be seen, he lives in the shadows. Yet his work can be seen everywhere. Iago whispers to us from within and through other people: it is the voice of a collective conditioning.

Our Iagos are like the “mini me” from the Austin Powers movies -- a smaller, angrier, and spiteful version of ourselves. A tragically funny alter-ego. Most of us live with a painful sense of separation from others, a nagging sense that something missing, and a deep experience of limitation, fear, and desire. We experience ourselves as small. As a result, we engage in a flurry of activity to avoid the objects of our fear and obtain the objects of our craving.

This is the dance of problem-based living and, although widely perceived as normal, it fuels an endless drama of struggle. It’s the main character in our personal novela – those unintentionally hilarious over-the-top Spanish-language soap operas. And no matter how hard we try, the poison seeps through the cracks in our armor, manifesting as disease, conflict, and perceived failure.

On a personal level, it can manifest as a general anxiety, or a body image problem. On a community level, it can sabotage something as seemingly simple as a blog. Globally, it is expressed as war, as economic and environmental madness. This force has been given many names. I have heard it called “The Gremlin,” or (for the fundamentalists here) “Satan.” Simply put, it is ego-based living, or as I call it, the “Mini Me.

Unlike the movie, we cannot see or measure the mini me directly; we only know it by its effects. It is like a thief in the night: you actually do not see him, but you know he has been there because your valuables have been taken. This mini me is state of mind -- a social conditioning of sorts -- and it possesses certain qualities:

Sense of lack This is the essence of the mini me. Enough is never enough; we are never spiritual enough, skinny enough, smart enough, or hip enough. We filter all of our experience through this sense of lack.

Sense of separation Constantly reaching “out there” to fill up our sensed emptiness keeps us focused on a “me-oriented” reality, reinforcing our separateness.

Addiction Gripped in the throes of craving and lack, as soon as we sense that something external will “do it” for us, we latch on to it and become addicted. In this way, the mini me can lead us into unhealthy attachments to work, sex, food, drugs, the internet (Facebook? LOL!), or even romantic relationships.

Fear Once desire and addiction take over, we are overcome by a sense of non-specific fear. If we believe the perfect relationship will alleviate our sense of emptiness, immediately loneliness becomes a terrifying fate. What if s/he leaves me?!

Suspicion fear makes us suspicious, we trust no one completely.

Strategic living We always plan for the worst -- something bad can happen any moment (politicians are notorious for using this aspect of the mini me).

Anxiety There is notion that something is wrong, that we should be doing something more to be “complete.”

Hostile competition this is especially true in the realm of romance and love. If there is this notion that there is not enough, we must fight others who are trying to get it too! This is hostile competition as opposed to co-creation.

Next: the way out…




  1. "Simply put, it is ego-based living"
    Ay, Ay, Ay... Even the smartest one of us all, can fall so easily into the traps of our deeply seeded ego based fears...

    We must examine those fears carefully so that we can eventually claim freedom from that fucking bondage...

    Coño, how sad it is to have to deal with a grown man and his fucking ataques de Cuernos, shshshh!!!!!!!

  2. y celos pasmaos, lmao


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