Hola mi Gente,
Yesterday I wrote about service. I
decided to become a helper as a response to the world’s suffering. It just so
happened that right before graduate school, I came across a book, HowCan I Help? Stories and Reflection on Service, by Ram Dass. The
book changed my life. Below is an excerpt from the section called “Suffering.”
I call it “Eating Tears.”
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Eating Tears
I know God will not give me anything I
can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.
-- Mother Teresa, b. Agnes G. Bejaxhiu (1910–1998)
-- Mother Teresa, b. Agnes G. Bejaxhiu (1910–1998)
My idea was pretty simple at the
beginning. I started to volunteer in wards with terminally ill children or burn
victims -- just go there and cheer them up a little, spread around some
giggles. Gradually, it developed that I was going to come in as a clown.
First, somebody gave me a red rubber
nose, and I put that to work. Then I started doing some elementary makeup. Then
I got a yellow, red, and green clown outfit. Finally, some nifty, tremendous
wing-tip shoes, about two and half feet long, with green tips and heels, white
in the middle. They came from a clown who was retiring and wanted his feet to
keep on walking.
It’s a little tricky coming in. Some
kids, when they see a clown, they think they are going to be eaten alive. And
kids in hospitals and burn units, of course, are pretty shaky. So it’s always
good to lead with some bubbles, just blow some bubbles around the ward. Then
I’ll move from bed to bed, just feeling out what’s appropriate: maybe checkers,
or blackjack, or go fish. Or if they’re lying there with tubes coming out of
them, I’ll hit the kids with riddles. Riddles are great.
Later, if they can manage it, I’ll give
them this paper bag that they can fit over their heads. When they put it on and
sort of blow their lips together, they can make this funny sound I call the
Funny Mantra. They turn into a living kazoo. I’ll say, “If things get too
tough, just take that paper bag from under your pillow and sound off. Maybe
that’ll help a little, and it’ll sure surprise the nurses.”
Because things do get very tough in
there, I’ll tell you. They were very tough for me in the beginning -- very. You
see some terrible things in these wards. Seeing children dying or mutilated is
nothing most of us ever get prepared for. Nobody teaches us to face suffering
in this society. We never talk about it until we get hit in the face.
Like when I was starting out I was
making the rounds one day at a children’s hospital. The shade was pulled on
this one room so I couldn’t see, but I peeked in the door. It was a room with
badly burned children in it. They had them in chrome crib beds with walls on
the side, so they couldn’t crawl out or fall out if it got too terrible in
there.
There was this one little black kid in one
of them. He was horribly burned. He looked like burnt toast. Pieces of his face
weren’t there. Pieces of his ears were missing. Where was his mouth? You could
hardly tell who he was. There was no way of pinning a person to the face, what
little there was of it.
It was just terrible, just mind-boggling.
My jaw dropped, I gasped, and I came completely unglued. I remember flashing
back to the anti-war movement. There was this picture of a napalmed kid I used
to carry around at demonstrations. Suddenly here was that kid right in front of
me. Unbelievably painful to behold.
I was overwhelmed. And my mind went off
in all sorts of directions. “What’s it going to be like if he lives?” “What if
I had a child this happened to?” “What if this happened to me?”
So there we were burnt toast and
unglued clown. Quite a sight, I bet. And I’m fighting just to stay there, trying
to find a way to get past my horror.
All of a sudden, this other kid comes
whizzing by -- I think he was skating along on his IV pole -- and he stops, and
kinda pushes around me, and looks into the crib at this other kid, and comes
out with, “Hey, YOU UGLY!” Just like that. And the burnt kid made this gurgling
laugh kind of noise and his face moved around, and all of a sudden I just went
for his eyes, and we locked up right there, and everything else dissolved. It
was like going through a tunnel right to his heart. And all the burnt flesh
disappeared, and I saw him from another place. We settled right in.
“YOU UGLY!” Right. He ugly. He probably
knows how ugly he is more than anyone else. And if he’s gotta deal with people
hanging around with saliva coming out of their mouths, it’s gonna be extra
horrible. But somebody meets him in the eye and says, “Hey, what’s happening?
Wanna hear a riddle… ?”
So being able to look You Ugly in the
eye… that’s done a lot for me. Because once I do that, I can go in and see what
might be done that can ease things up. And you get all kinds of inspiration.
Like, some of us were setting up to
show Godzilla in the kids’ leukemia ward. I was making up kids as
clowns. One kid was totally bald from chemotherapy, and when I finished doing
his face, another kid said, “Go on and do the rest of his head.” The kid loved
the idea. And when I was done, his sister said, “Hey, we can show the movie on
Billy’s head.” And he really loved that idea. So we set up Godzilla and
ran it on Billy’s head, and Billy was pleased as punch, and we were all proud
of Billy. It was quite a moment. Especially when the doctors arrived.
So I don’t know. Burnt skin or bald
heads on little kids -- what do you do? I guess you just face it -- when the
kids are really hurting so bad, and so afraid, and probably dying, and
everybody’s heart is breaking. Face it, and see what happens after that, see
what you do next.
I got the idea of traveling with
popcorn. When a kid is crying I dab the tears with the popcorn and pop it into
my mouth or into his or hers. We sit around together and eat the tears.
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My name is Eddie and I’m in recovery
from civilization…
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