Hola mi Gente,
Have you ever tried online dating? I
have! I spent one year whoring through several online sites. Recently, I came
across the following interesting information revealing a glimpse into the wild
world of cyber romance:
- One out of ten users on online dating sites are scammers; one out of ten users leave within the first 3 months.
- One out of three women who meet men online have sex on the first encounter (which also means at least one third of the men).
- Online, men lie most about their age, height, and income. Women, on the other hand, lie most about their weight, physical build, and age. More info here .
It’s Friday and that
means it’s all about S-E-X over at [un]Common Sense...
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Pussy Control
For
the women with vaginas and the people who love them
Just
as the brain/ mind and all the major body parts work together to create a sexual
experience, the V is made up of many smaller components that work together when
a woman is aroused. One little organ stirs, causing a chain reaction that
eventually results in a symphonic pulsing that grows in waves of pleasure until
it consumes your total being. Well, that’s if you’re with a lover who knows
about your body. As with the cliché about knowledge and power, the more you
know, the more effectively you can give and receive pleasure. Some of you may
have hit on a button or two accidentally (happy, happy, joy, joy!), but here’s
a short (and admittedly incomplete) guide to help you become a discoverer.
Technically,
calling it a vagina is incorrect. The correct term would be the vulva. Vulva denotes the entire female
genital area, the equivalent of “the package.” Sometimes it’s called a pussy, a
va-jay-jay, the vag, Nuyoricans call it a chocha, but I would never call
it a twat because that label is best reserved for conservatives (i.e., Ted Cruz is a dumb twat). The vagina is nestled within the vulva, but it is
important to remember the rest of the sensitive parts around the vagina.
Especially the clitoris.
As
I stated, the vulva describes the total female “package” (and what a package!).
Vulva is the name for all the external parts: the mons pubis, the
clitoris and its hood, and the vaginal and urethral openings.
The
mons pubis (literally “pubic hill”) is the
mound of flesh over the pubic bone where the hair grows. Underneath the mons
pubis lies the ligament that holds the clit in place, therefore, massaging
the area or grinding the pelvis against something (a hand, a good friend, a
washing machine during the rinse cycle, or against another pelvis while slow
dancing) can be a pleasurable experience.
The clitoris, sometimes called “the man in the
boat,” “the clit,” or the “love button,” is similar to the male penis. It has a
head and a shaft, and becomes erect when aroused. What most people don’t know
is that the clitoris is larger than what it appears. In fact, for some time,
scientists missed out on this.
It has legs (“clitoral wings”) that extend several inches
under the labia and toward the vagina and is in close proximity to the anus
(that’s why anal sex can be a very
pleasurable experience). The head can vary in size and shape and in how much of
it protrudes. The visible nubbin has more than 6,000 nerve endings. Most
fascinating is that the clitoris is the only human body part designed purely
for pleasure. Most women need clitoral stimulation -- direct or indirect --
in order to reach orgasm.
The
clitoral hood is a small sleeve of protective
tissue that covers the clitoris -- similar to the foreskin on an uncircumcised
penis. Some hoods cover a lot, the clit hardly showing. Other hoods are barely
there, with the clit saying “hello!” Some women prefer clitoral stimulation
through the hood because direct touch is too intense. Also, smegma, a
cheese-like, foul-smelling substance, tends to gather under the hood and it’s a
good idea for women to pull it back and clean it occasionally.
The
outer labia (labia majora) are the
outer lips that cushion and protect the tender parts beneath. They are mostly
fatty tissue with some hair. The outer labia are less sensitive than other
parts of the vulva. The inner labia (labia minora) are
hair-free and much more sensitive (dense with nerve endings) than the outer
labia. They swell when aroused and are attached to the head of the clitoris,
therefore stroking them can stimulate the clit. Inner labia come in all
sizes and can be small and tucked in or big blossoms of pussy. They can appear
dark or light in color.
The
anus, the vulva’s neighbor just down the way,
is also rich in nerve endings and there’s much fun to be explored there. I will
address the anus at a later date.
The
urethra
is a thin tube that carries urine away from the bladder and out the urethral
opening is often small and hard to find. Since bacteria can migrate here during
sex, be sure to pee afterward, as it is nature’s flushing system.
The
urethral sponge is spongy erectile tissue
that wraps around the urethra, protecting it. It contains lots of glands and
when aroused becomes engorged with blood and the glands fill with fluid. This
is most likely the fluid that squirts during female
ejaculation. The G-spot is where you can feel the urethral
sponge through the vaginal wall. It’s difficult to find when a woman isn’t
aroused, but when she is, the urethral sponge swells and there’s a spot about
two inches into the vagina on the belly side that feels rough to the touch. This
is it! Some women love having the G-spot stroked or massaged with fingers
or a vibrator. Others find it annoying.
The
vagina,
the passageway to and from the uterus, is made of two muscular walls that rest
against each other. It helps to envision the vagina as more of an envelope than
a “hole” or tunnel. At rest, it’s only about four to five inches deep. During
arousal, the walls of the vagina become engorged with extra blood flow and
become moist for the smoother entry of fingers/ penis/ toys. The first couple
of inches of the vagina contain the most nerves. Excitement makes the rear
portion of the vagina swell, lifting it another two inches or more. The deeper
part is less sensitive but responds to pressure giving the sensation of
“fullness” (yeah, to a degree, size matters LOL!).
The
cervix is a knob of firmer tissue at the back
of the vagina that serves as the gateway to the uterus. There’s an opening in
the center (called the os) where menstrual blood flows out or sperm can
enter. The cervix becomes softer and more “sperm-friendly” during ovulation
(the “tender trap”? LOL). It also releases mucus that can aid or block sperm,
depending on the time of the month. If a thrusting penis or dildo bangs up
against the cervix during sex, it can hurt or feel great, depending on how
you’re wired.
The
PC or “love” muscle, short for pubococcygeus, is a muscle system
at the bottom of the pelvic floor, holding up the bladder and uterus. During
sexual excitement, the PC muscle contracts involuntarily, and spasms during
orgasm. Both men and women can learn to control their PC muscle, manipulating
it to extend orgasm, for example.
There
are other parts of the female reproductive system that I will omit at this time
for the sake of brevity. For now, I’ll leave you with the following. Unlike
men, whose genitals dangle externally, female genitalia is more internal and
hidden. I would encourage women (or the men and women that love them) who
haven’t already done so, to take a mirror and have a good look. Put some
relaxing music on, grab a mirror (and perhaps a lover?) and squat or lie down
and explore, get to know yourself. For the men, it would do you a great service
if you took the time lovingly exploring your lover, getting to know her
intimately. It’s like getting PhD in your lover’s erogenous zones. LOL
My
name is Eddie and I’m in recovery from civilization…
P.S.:
Sex is a good thing.
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