Hola mi Gente,
It’s Friday! Hope you have a great weekend.
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Celibacy
The
only sexual perversion is celibacy.
I will submit that celibacy has become
the last sexual perversion in America. Sure, medically speaking, celibacy is
relatively safe, non-harmful, and carries no risk of a sexually transmitted
disease. But as a former colleague who is a sex educator stated recently during
a discussion of abstinence: “It’s safe, but is it sex?”
It’s an important question, more
important than it may seem at first.
Essentially, celibacy is self-denial,
an inhibition of sex. And as I have said repeatedly, repression is a poor
substitute for morality. Furthermore, when we push sex into the darkness, it
claims more power over our preconscious intentions. This is why abstinence-only
sex education is an abominable failure -- it goes counter to one the most powerful
of evolutionary forces. Essentially, to deny sex, is to deny your humanity.
For the purpose of this post, I will
define celibacy as sexual abstinence or the state of not being married. These
two dynamics are closely related. Celibacy is encouraged by various
institutions namely governments and religions for different reasons.
At one time celibacy was the only
recourse for women who chose not to submit to a marriage that would place them
in a position of servitude. Others, out of necessity, used celibacy to protect
their reputations. Conversely, those in arranged marriages took advantage of
the religious suppression of sex as an excuse not to have sex with their spouse
(known as agenbioisis -- a couple living together without sex). Most people
chose to remain celibate during the absence of their lovers. Others chose it
out of fear of intimacy or trauma resulting from being sexually abused. Many
more were forced into celibacy due to a lack of available partners. This was
true at one time, for example, for male Chinese immigrants in California.
Throughout history, governments have
imposed celibacy on people as a way to control population, disease, and for
economic reasons. the US military during WW I, for example, urged by fanatical
moral reformers and concerned over the potential loss of manpower to venereal
disease, encouraged the celibacy of their troops by using propaganda which
portrayed sexually responsive women as spies, prostitutes, and disease
carriers. Military police were stationed in areas where local women and sex
workers frequented. Sexually well-adjusted and/ or responsive women came to be
viewed as whores with many being arrested en masse. Ironically, those who were
less responsive were viewed by the men as the spoils of war. It should go
without saying that none of these attitudes resulted in a culture in which
respect for women and their sexuality were valued.
Religious homosexuals who have wanted
to remain in a favorable standing with their church have chosen celibacy.
Abstinence is often viewed as character
building. However, it can also be seen as a form of sexual repression with
definite negative consequences. The occupants of convents and monasteries were
often notorious for their sadistic inclinations and, as with the accusers
during the European and Salem witch-hunts, delighted in the sexual exposés of
others sexual exploits. More recently, the MeeseCommission, charged with defining obscenity, resulted in the
accumulation of the world’s largest repository of pornographic material. They probably
had a good time.
Aside from serving as a divine
justification to burn men and women like me, religious celibacy also serves of
focusing the adherent’s attention on a god, looking only to Him or Her for love
and approval. This may bond an individual to the church but at the same time
destroys any chance they have of learning to look upon others for nurturance,
support, and unconditional love/ acceptance.
Christianity has waged an enduring and
influential war against sex. In some sects, the extreme has been the norm. The
eighteenth century Shakers, for example, imposed many social restrictions on
themselves to avoid erotic stimulation. They weren’t allowed to have pets for
fear they might mate before them, nor were they allowed to touch, speak, or
walk with someone of the opposite sex.
The only form of sexual release they
were allowed was that of ritual dancing (in private) which led some into an
altered state of consciousness (which was why they were called “Shakers” --
they shook uncontrollably).
Others practiced celibacy as a way to
achieve altered states. St. Augustine and St. Thomas Aquinas, early Christians
who formed the philosophical foundations of the Catholic Church, were
influenced by this manner rather than the more usual practice of
self-flagellation as a means to do away with sexual feelings. St. Augustine was
also the major figure involved in transforming sex from something sacred to
something sinful.
The Victorians took celibacy to
completely new different heights. They believed that the only justified orgasm
was one that was achieved in order to propagate the species. This meant that
any type of sex other than penis/ vagina was viewed as unhealthy as well as
sinful. During this time, it was also believed that fellatio and cunnilingus
could cause cancer and anal sex? Well, let’s just say that anal sex was the
worst kind of offense. Suffice it to say that I would have been considered a
heretic had I lived during Victorian times.
Certain mystics use celibacy for
psychological and spiritual reasons (I totally disagree with spiritual reasons
for celibacy, but that’s another post). Mystics often use celibacy to reach
“higher” altered states of consciousness. Religious leaders use celibacy as a
way of developing a high level of concentration.
There is no documentation on the
long-term physical effects of total abstinence, but there should be a concern
about the atrophying of the love muscle (the pubococcygeus), which serves to
control the spasms during orgasm. There is also some evidence showing that it
may not be possible for a woman to orgasm after ten or twenty years of not
using this muscle properly.
In other words, use it or lose it!
My name is Eddie and I’m in recovery
from civilization…
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