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mi Gente…
Today is Friday and it's all about sex here. LOL
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Religious Sex
… Her truth, her altar,
… where the stuttering
of my lips
offers prayers
from an unknown religion
to forgotten Gods.
… where the stuttering
of my lips
offers prayers
from an unknown religion
to forgotten Gods.
-- Edward-Yemíl
Rosario, © 2008
According to The Big Three
(Christianity, Judaism, Islam) the erotic impulse – the world of Eros, the
body, and human sexuality – is the domain of the devil. From this perspective,
the physical is sinful, bestial, a distraction from all things spiritual. Human
sexuality, according to this view, is an obstacle to the high hallowed pursuit
of God and everything that is good and ethical. From the moment we are born, we
are told that the more we open to the erotic impulse, the more we listen and
open to the needs of the body, the more we embrace and enjoy our sexual
natures, the further we stray from moral rectitude and emotional well-being.
I write my Friday sex blog mostly
because I argue that the opposite is true. I submit that the erotic impulse,
honored and liberated from the shackles of guilt and organized forces of
suppression, is a legitimate and powerful path toward a profound
psycho-spiritual awareness. The sex blog is a call to stop trivializing the
erotic/ sexual world as we so often do, as if sex involved nothing more than
sensory stimulation, ego gratification, and the pursuit of an orgasm.
Some might see my assumptions as
radical. That there is more to sex than the giddy pursuit of carnal pleasure
may be hard to accept in the aftermath of the sexual explosion of the 60s and
70s. It was an era when reliable birth control, combined with an awakening
feminism, political consciousness-raising, and the movements for gay, lesbian,
and bisexual liberation released us from some of our legacy of sexual oppression
and fear. However, I also argue that it is precisely our failure to recognize
the depth of the erotic impulse that is at the root of our current
dissatisfaction with our sexual nature.
Once we began to shake loose the
shackles of repression, we were as the proverbial children let loose in candy
store. In the time of so-called free love, we seemed to want nothing more than
to consume as many erotic experiences as we could. We were, after all, sexually
starved beings emerging from fifteen hundred years lost in a wasteland into a
world of lush jungles bursting with exotic fruit. I was there, and it was an
exciting time in the cultural history of Western sexuality, and an important
first step in freeing ourselves from the repressive world on the 50s – the white-picket-fence,
clean and tidy, sexual suburbia of post-war United States.
Released from decades of sexual
repression, we had more sex in more ways (with your mouth, your ass, with a
vibrator, within groups, or with people of your own gender), than ever before.
But even as we feasted on erotic delights we also discovered, even as we
celebrated breaking down the political, religious, and cultural inhibitions,
that there were limits to the path were on. The new synthesis, to borrow from
Hegel, had created a new antithesis. The crest of the wave was moving faster
than the base and there were rocks up ahead. Jumping into the sexual realm, we
found ourselves confronted with a landscape we could not have expected and did
not know how to interpret.
As much as we would like to trivialize
energies, we must realize that whenever we play with erotic energy, we engage
both emotional and archetypal forces that have their roots in the very heart of
who we are as human beings, in how we define ourselves and relate to the world
around us. Entering consciously into the erotic world raises issues and
feelings, for example, around usually unfulfilled desires rooted in infancy – desires
to be held and nurtured. It touches our prenatal memories of being at one with
another human being, around ego boundaries, and the blurring of personalities,
and around surrendering control. The erotic impulse always raises all the issues
related to intimacy – the desire to be close to someone else, the fear of
becoming lost or smothered, and all the past yearnings, wounds, and
disappointments we have experienced. Being sexual brings us face to face with
issues of our perceived worthiness to receive love or pleasure, as well as when
and how we want, or don’t want, to extend these ways of caring expressions to
another.
Going deeper, the emotions released by
deep erotic experiences, we were perhaps confronted with anger, passion, even
rage which we may find embarrassing or disturbing. We find ourselves dealing
with issues of power, and of trust. Going deeper still, erotic experiences
takes us down to basic feelings about the balance of chaos and order, and even
to an experience that many describe as a direct contact to the Divine.
As a sexual philosopher and explorer, I
believe my perspective is very different. I see the sexual experience as path
for exploring the very meaning of life. I see the attempt to pursue awakening
only through a disembodied mentality as wrongheaded and culturally biased.
Perhaps it’s a consequence of a spirituality dominated by male spiritual
teachers who defined an embodied feminine way of engaging the world as
inferior.
Sex is a matter of energy. Once you
have learned to experience orgasm as an energy event outside the sexual
context, you take responsibility for your own well-being in sex. You realize
that the true source of your pleasure lies not so much in your partner as
within yourself.
My name is Eddie and I’m in recovery
from civilization…
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